Why you act the way you do…
You were brought into the world as an offspring from your Parents, you had no mind of your own, you were so innocent, as a matter of fact, your mind was a blank slate(tabularasa).
Few months later you started learning about the world, you related with your mother, the toys and you graduated to playing with your peers. All these while you were picking up something from the environment called EXPERIENCE.
To present day, you went to school, travelled for summer, related with people, got a job or had your own business.
The mind is a tabularasa, the environment i.e. your experiences determine your behaviour. There is a mutual connection between the events that occur in your environment and your actions.
If for instance, you failed an examination or was heart broken from an unsuccesful relationship, it would influence your mentality towards academic life and your relationship towards the opposite sex respectively.
So why do you act the way you do? I will highlight a few points that will serve as an eye-opening towards understanding why you act the way you do.
An end has come to you trying to figure out why you behave in a certain way or why people complain about your actions or why you don’t like somebody or get attracted to them or why you suddenly dislike people or even feel depressed. Here is WHY!
»The first is the ANALYSIS OF THE MIND: the mind has a part called the unconscious. So the influence of unconscious fears, thoughts, desires and motivation determines our behaviour and our personality. This can be seen in our everyday life, when fearfulness and hurtful desires take over and influence our decison making.
Also, there are some biological forces in the mind called the INSTINCTS, yeaah this what many people call that “spirit” or “something was speaking to Me”. The insticts is made up of two sides called the Life and death- the life is that which is responsible for the creative self and survival thinking-that mindset that propels you to get food when you’re hungry or decide an escape route when in danger. The death instinct is responsible for hatred and aggressive behavior. Yes, that feeling that makes you beat up your wife, or slap your daughter or even yell at employER. That sounds familiar right? All those actions are determined by your instincts.
»The second is THOUGHT PATTERN: many at times our thinking influences our actions and relationship with other people. Thinking is how we reason, the manner in which we perceive things through our senses and process them and use them. We apply thinking in every area of our life, in our career, in our relationship, marriage, business organization, decision making and so on. It is even present in determining the location of your next vacation, the pattern of decorating your houses, the color of dress to wear to an event, the type of weave you should have on, what car to buy, what house to build-a bungalow or duplex, how to propose to your fiancee, what kind of food to eat. Thinking is in everyday. And it controls our everyday behaviour. Even the negative ones-such as excessive drinking of alcohol, getting high on drugs, having unprotected sex, sex with different people, cheating on spouse, excessive spending of money, suicidal ideation and so on.
Thinking is vital. It should be done approriately.
»The third, which is the last is CULTURAL INFLUENCE: hmmm, well, this is a very important point of why you act the way you do. First I must say that as individuals, we have to learn to accept people the way they are. Okay! Cultural influences talks about how your ethnic identity, culture, conformity in the society, stereotypes influence your behaviour. Some people act based on where they were brought up, some act based on stereoptypical mentality that has been imbided in them right from time, some others just conform to what they see others do, that’s why we see so many people dress alike and then we don’t know who is who, because they just live to conform.
Your culture determines what value(s) you hold, your attitudes and even your social life.
The three points stressed above are interwined and will help just anybody as well as to give an insight into why you do What you do, its short but insightful.
I will be glad to read your comments and answer your questions.
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