Archive | May 2013

POTENTIAL VS. CREDENTIALS: Is your potential more essential than your credentials?

Credential without potential is destiny dimensia
Potential without credential can still pave way for an exponential success
Credential + Potential = Hot cake

It’s a beautiful day and I’m thanking God for that. What about you?. I love to share my thoughts whenever I get inspired by someone or a quote.
Early this morning as I was reading through my tweet line, I found this quote by a friend- “My potential is more essential than my credentials”.
That’s so deep to me! Especially when you understand that “greatness is not found in the degrees you have or the grade you left school with. It is embedded in what you carry within you”.
A couple of weeks back, I was discussing with one of my Mentors, apparently his close friend was there as well. And somehow they started off with this topic of “most first class students being so arrogant and all”. So I listened so I could learn then I contributed as well.

While discussing, they mentioned some of their friends that finished with 3rd class or even a pass and they are doing better than they are now. He made mention of a guy that happened to have the poorest grade when they were in school and he asserted that he is the wealthiest among them now.
From their discussion, they mentioned that;
1) People that leave school with good grades (especially first class students), lack “team-spirit”: they do not know how to work with others. That they depend only on their own strengths and find it difficult to operate in an organization.

2) They are arrogant: meaning most of the people that left school with good grades are very proud. They feel they know it all and do not want to learn from other people

3) They are roaming round the streets”: meaning most of them do not have jobs to do, roaming round the streets without anything to do.
Then His friend cited an example of a guy he helped get a job, who happens to be a first class student. He mentioned that the guy really disturbed him to help him get a job, then eventually he helped him get the job but after a few months they guy quit the job saying “his boss is this and that”. My mentor’s friend said the guy so abused the boss that he had to call his attention to the fact that the person is talking ill of is his friend.
I learned from that. That’s credentials!

In life, if you do not have more to you than certificate then you do not understand what life really means.
That certificate is only a paper until you add value to it-“your potential”.
Within this same society, there are people who;
»Are entrepreneurs in their workplace: they have an average grade and they have very good jobs where they inspire others and have very good working relationships with colleagues as well. They love what they do at work hence, they do the work like its theirs.

So also we there are people who;
»Complain each and everyday about how poor the economy is: all they do is sit and complain about what is wrong about the country and how it affects them so badly without even taking a step to at least try. These people are in the category of the: first class, 2-1.

Insights
Do you know that you are responsible for your own life?
Do you know that if you keep complaining about what government didn’t do, it doesn’t mean they will improve for you?
Have you ever made effort to contribute to your soft assets?-your brains!
Have you invested in yourself? Not depending on people all the time.
Have you searched the internet for solutions?
Have you even tried to get your butt off that sit to do something tangible?
Have you been making good use of social media?
Have you taken time out to look at websites to help get a good job?-e.g jobrapido and jobberman.com?
Have you subscribed to get information from them(jobberman and co)?
What are you doing while waiting to get a job?
Are you ready to be responsible for your won life?
Ask yourself these questions and only you knows where you need to adjust.

Remember: “No one will come and meet you to help you, God definitely sends people to help but you must at least leave your comfort zone to meet with them as well”
Have a great weekend and always remember to do something tangible with your life.
DO SOMETHING; YOU’RE POSSIBLE

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7 RULES OF SUCCESS

I came across this piece in my old diary. Apparently, I wrote it about 2 years ago, although I really can’t remember the source because I read a whole lot of things and put them down in my diary as they will be useful in future as it is now. So I decided to share it with you. It could help a confused heart, and help you take a step further into doing what you were created to do.
Check it out:

Rule 1: Decide what you want: one of the very worst uses of time is to do something very well that need not to be done at all.

Rule 2: write it down: think on paper, create something you can touch and see. A goal or objective that is not in writing is merely a wish or a fantasy. It has no energy behind it.

Rule 3: Set a deadline on your goal: a goal. Without a deadline has no urgency.

Rule 4: Make a list of everything you can think of that you are going to have to do to achieve your goal.

Rule 5: Organize your (the) list into a plan: Take a few minutes to decide what you need to do first and what you can do later. Lay out your plan visually, in the form of series of boxes/circles on a sheet of paper.

Rule 6: Take action on your plan immediately. Do something, do anything.

Rule 7: Resolve to do something every single day that moves you toward your major goal. Never miss a day-Read a specific number of pages on a key subject, engage in a specific period of physical exercise. Learn a certain number of words in a foreign language.

The key to success is action. Do not confuse activity with accomplishments. Practice is the key to mastering any skill. The person you see is the person you will be. Think on paper.

I wish you great success, we shall see and meet at the top!

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DO YOU KNOW ABOUT SCHIZOPHRENIA?: 14yr old girl killed & set on fire by boyfriend because he thought she was pregnant.

Case study:
Shaniesha Forbes, 14, was killed by her 20 year old boyfriend who then burnt her body and dumped her remains on a beach just because he thought she was pregnant.
Below is how New York Post is reporting it:
The family of the 14-year-old Brooklyn girl who was allegedly killed by her boyfriend and dumped on a beach blasted him this morning for cowardly slaying her after he thought she was pregnant.
Police had arrested Christian Ferdinand, 20, in Maine on Tuesday, where he had fled after he allegedly suffocated Shaniesha Forbes, 14, and burnt her body before dumping the remains at Gerritsen Beach.

Schizophrenia is a group of severe brain disorders in which people interpret reality abnormally. Schizophrenia may result in some combination of hallucinations, delusions, and disordered thinking and behavior.

Contrary to some popular belief, schizophrenia isn’t split personality or multiple personality. The word “schizophrenia” does mean “split mind,” but it refers to a disruption of the usual balance of emotions and thinking.

Symptoms of schizophrenia:
Schizophrenia is a chronic condition, requiring lifelong treatment.
A person diagnosed with schizophrenia may experience hallucinations (most reported are hearing voices), delusions (often bizarre or persecutory in nature), and disorganized thinking and speech. The latter may range from loss of train of thought, to sentences only loosely connected in meaning, to incoherence known as word salad in severe cases. Social withdrawal, sloppiness of dress and hygiene, and loss of motivation and judgment are all common in schizophrenia. There is often an observable pattern of emotional difficulty, for example lack of responsiveness. Impairment in social cognition is associated with schizophrenia, as are symptoms of paranoia; social isolation commonly occurs. Difficulties in working and long-term memory, attention, executive functioning, and speed of processing also commonly occur. In one uncommon subtype, the person may be largely mute, remain motionless in bizarre postures, or exhibit purposeless agitation, all signs of catatonia. About 30% to 50% of people with schizophrenia do not have insight, in other words they do not accept their condition or its treatment.

According to the revised fourth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR), to be diagnosed with schizophrenia, three diagnostic criteria must be met:

Characteristic symptoms: Two or more of the following, each present for much of the time during a one-month period (or less, if symptoms remitted with treatment).
Delusions
Hallucinations
Disorganized speech, which is a manifestation of formal thought disorder
Grossly disorganized behavior (e.g. dressing inappropriately, crying frequently) or catatonic behavior
Negative symptoms: Blunted affect (lack or decline in emotional response), alogia (lack or decline in speech), or avolition (lack or decline in motivation)
If the delusions are judged to be bizarre, or hallucinations consist of hearing one voice participating in a running commentary of the patient’s actions or of hearing two or more voices conversing with each other, only that symptom is required above. The speech disorganization criterion is only met if it is severe enough to substantially impair communication.
Social or occupational dysfunction: For a significant portion of the time since the onset of the disturbance, one or more major areas of functioning such as work, interpersonal relations, or self-care, are markedly below the level achieved prior to the onset.
Significant duration: Continuous signs of the disturbance persist for at least six months. This six-month period must include at least one month of symptoms (or less, if symptoms remitted with treatment).
Psychotic symptoms lasting less than a month may be diagnosed as brief psychotic disorder, and various conditions may be classed as psychotic disorder not otherwise specified.
For further reading on the types, check the link below.

Sources:
http://lindaikeji.blogspot.com/2013/05/14yr-old-girl-killed-set-on-fire-by.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter&m=1

Further reading:
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizophrenia

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Kelly Rowland in Dirty Laundry

This is going to be a tough one to write about as I usually don’t like to hear cases of men abusing women in any way.
It’s just wrong! Whether you are single or married. Love becomes blind when one doesn’t get out of a domestically violent setting.
Would it be better for one to be referred to in “past tense” which signifies death or for one to be pitied due to a deformity as a result of beating, cutting and abuse?
Who ever knew Miss Kelly Rowland was going through all of that stuff where she was being hurt by a man who once saw her as beautiful?
Who ever knew she hid behind the shadows of “I’m a star” ain’t nobody know my problems.
I once wondered if she would get married like Beyonce as they are sisters but never read in any news she was undergoing torture by some man she’s not even married to.

Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects, battery), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.

Domestic violence is just something that kills everything a “woman” is-her pride, her dignity, her self-esteem, her voice to speak, her ego and all that makes a woman a woman.

Any man who engages in that act needs to be dealt with seriously.
Its so sad when one hears of single ladies who get the beating of their life from a man who hasn’t even put a ring on it!

A comedian tweeted that: “if he can’t smash is blackberry phone against the wall when he is angry, then he should never lay his hands on you”.

Lady, know this if you’re going through this: Your life wouldn’t end if you leave that relationship. A man who will love you and truly cater for you wouldn’t lay a finger on you.
It may seem tough especially when it feels this man is all you’ve got. You got GOD! He’s not your creator. You have a life to live.

Sure, women love to talk and say some really nasty things but that doesn’t give any one a go ahead to “hit you”. It is wrong! And simply wicked!

As a woman if you know your mouth will land you into trouble, please just keep quiet and walk away instead.
But in a situation where what you say doesn’t even cause for you to be beaten and you get that often, then there is something wrong somewhere; that’s where violence starts from.

Are you going to wait till he kills you?
Are you going to watch him hurt you badly even for the man who will eventually pick you up? ‘Cause whether you believe it or not; you deserve a man who will respect you for who you are and so much cherish your body that he wouldn’t want to leave any “mark” on it except a mark of “smile” that signifies he’s treating you well.
Domestic violence breeds self-hate, low-self esteem, low self-worth, tears, jealousy, hurt and everything bad that can cause damage to not only the body but the soul.
The illusion that comes with domestic violence is that you start to believe that “you can handle it” or “he is a good man especially when he showers you with gifts after whooping your ass” its all fake!
Don’t get deceived by all that; its still good when you aint married to him. You can still make a change.

Meanwhile, here is the lyrics from Kelly’s song “Dirty laundry”;
“When my sister was on stage/ killin’ it like a motherf**ker 
/ I was enraged / feelin’ it like a motherf**ker / bird in a cage 
/ you would never know what I was dealin’ with
 / went our separate ways but I was happy she was killin’ it
 / bittersweet / she was up I was down
 / no lie I feel good for her but what do I do now / forget the records off the record I was goin’ through some bullsh**t 
/ post-survivor / she don’t fight / who wanna hear my bullsh*t / meanwhile this nigga putting his hands on me / swear ya’ll don’t know the half of this industry…

Please speak up if you are experiencing such…talk to a friend about it, your Mum, or someone you can trust. You can’t get all the help alone.
And to that Man that does this: Live and let live. If you don’t love her, then don’t beat her, leave her the hell alone and let her live her own life. Only a coward beats a woman!
Sources:

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence
http://lindaikeji.blogspot.com/2013/05/kelly-rowland-admits-being-jealous-of.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter&m=1
Further reading:
http://m.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence

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OUR KIDS: That dark side we ignore!

It is said that “one shouldn’t judge a situation one has never been into” but now that means I can proudly say I have experienced this and I’m experiencing it right now.
Almost 5months now that I started service year. And each day I count and want it to end. At first I didn’t want to write about it. I wasn’t happy about it but at the same time I wasn’t propelled to write about it. So now is the time I guess.
Did you know somewhere in Nigeria, a 13year old girl is pregnant for a bricklayer?
Did you know that a 14year old J.S.3 boy has been sexually harassing a 13year old girl in J.S.2?
Did you know that a teacher slept with a J.S.3 student and had to get married to her according to her father’s instruction.
Did you know a 13year old already knows how to abort and the drug to use.
Did you know that in a classroom students take alcohol while lecture is going on?
Do you know a 15year old girl already goes to the “club house” to dance at night for money?

All these and many more go on in this country somewhere.
From my research and observation, I have discovered reasons why this is going on.
1.) IGNORANCE: this is our number one “disease”. It funny how lack of education is destroying the life of young people. Whether formal or informal education, one of this is lacking. Some of these girls do not even know what a sanitary pad is; but they know what sex is. They have experienced it and will educate even you the Parent.
Sex education is usually avoided by so many parents. When a mother doesn’t even know what birth control is? How will she educate a child about sex? Charity they say begins at home but most of these Parents are rarely available for their kids, they spend most time outside to get money for the family.

2.) MEDIA: the media has done more harm than good to these kids. They struggle to get what they see their role models have even when they haven’t gotten the concept of “hard work” and “read”. They want the shortcut to success because what most of their role models portray is that.

Some of them don’t know the “Minister for Education” but they know who does that dance move or sang that sexually appealing song.
They see a lot.

The government can only do little; so we shouldn’t be looking for support from them but let’s start from the homes.

»Educating your child about sex isn’t a sin. You are only helping them. But be careful how you do it as well. If you don’t know something; check google you will find almost anything there. Read more and explain to them as simple and lovely as possible.
When its time to whoop your kid’s ass please do; employ positive reinforcement when you have to. Study your kid to know if you being strict will help or not. Instead of getting better, some children won’t still listen when their parents are strict. Study your child.
Talking about sex especially to children is considered a taboo in many African
communities, yet sex education (SE) is probably the most cost-effective intervention by
which young people can protect themselves against abuse, exploitation, unintended
pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections (STI) and HIV/AIDS.

»Inspect the schools you want to enroll your kid(s) in: some of these kids do not know much but you sure know when wrong is wrong and what right is.
Help them by choosing good schools. Let them have good education.

Wole soyinka asserted; “the child you didn’t train will kill the child you trained” and that can be seen in our community. At the end of the day, the armed robber that wasn’t trained will kill the comfortable family man”.

»Educate others as well: not every mother had the opportunity to get education, so also not uneducated parents are illiterates.
Some people love to argue what they do not know; explain in a constructive way to them. Help co-parents as well when you are in a cycle of friends. Educate them on what you know is right and let them apply appropriately. Don’t force your beliefs on them because their family pattern is different from yours

Let’s help our girls, our boys and our society.
They know not the implications or consequences of what they do most times.

Further reading:
http://www.schooldays.ie/articles/Talk-about-sex-6—12-yrs
http://m.allafrica.com/stories/201204060203.html/?maneref=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2Fsearch%3Fq%3Dsex%2Beducation%2Bfor%2Bkids%2Bin%2Bnigeria%26client%3Dms-rim%26hl%3Den%26oe%3DUTF-8%26channel%3Dbrowser%26oq%3Dsex%2Beducation%2Bfor%2Bkids%2Bin%2Bnigeria%26gs_l%3Dmobile-heirloom-serp.3…2631.5103.0.5382.11.8.0.0.0.0.0.0..0.0…0.0…1c.1.DwwqUf3_p6s

Why I love you beauty!

How I love that you love
How cool it is to find pleasure in you
You are a game planner
I set the game time
How funny it is to find you
Those moments of joy with you
How wonderful it is that you love me
Why I love you beauty

Days go by, I remember you
I think about you and pray for you
Even in the darkest of mood
I still admire you
Why I love you beauty

Oh remember that day with you
The tears and the laughs
The dark and the light
The moment of ecstasy
All locked up in one soul
Why I love you beauty

Pay attention: sshh listen to the heart
It says so much than you hear
It is filled with thoughts of you
Thoughts of me and you too
Why I love you beauty

Beauty beauty Dear beauty,
Do you know I still have that feeling
That longing to love beyond measure
Oh why I love you beauty.

SPEAK OUT FOR GOOD!!!

Arise Nigerians!!!

Be our surprise GUEST and Join us tomorrow, Tuesday, 14th May 2013 for a RALLY at the UNILAG CAMPUS

THEME: “SPEAKOUT”: Breaking the silence on psychological and mental health problems in Nigeria

VENUE: School compound (starting point is in front of the school’s bookshop near Ecobank)

TIME: 9am – 2pm

If you are in Lagos and its environs, you can still be a VOLUNTEER (send sms to 08051149585) and help in leading a voice for the voiceless.

There is NO better time than NOW………..
Lets break the silence……………

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