I stumbled upon this book sometimes in November last year. It is a book for women but men could learn from it as well to help the women around them.
It was written by Joyce Meyer, a best selling author in New York. It is a book that explains and defines what a confident woman should be. It explains the duties and highlights the responsibilities of a woman and a wife.
The book is called THE CONFIDENT WOMAN.
In it, Joyce Meyer shared a lot of useful tips by relating it biblically and realistically. She emphasized on FEAR and how it prevents women from doing what they are meant to do as well as living boldly and peacefully. She also talked about the “Proverbs 31 woman”.
Its a must add to the shelf. It is well packed.
From all that was written in the book, she shared seven secrets of confident women which I will be sharing with you.
Secret #1- A confident woman knows that she is loved. Love is the healing balm that the world needs, and God offers it freely and continuously.
It is not uncommon to see women who feel unloved. There are women who feel so bad about themselves that they get involved with men that will hurt them, because they believe that is all they deserve.
A confident woman however does not fear being unloved, because she knows first and foremost that God loves her unconditionally.
To be whole and complete, we need to know that we are loved.

Secret #2- A confident woman refuses to live in fear.
“I will not fear” is the only acceptable attitude we can have towards fear. That doesn’t mean that we will never feel fear, but it does mean that we will not allow it to rule our decisions and actions.
Unless we make a firm decision to “fear not”, we will never be free from the power of it. Fear seems to be epidemic in our society. Are you afraid of anything? Is it rejection, failure, the past, the future, loneliness, driving, aging, the dark, heights, life or death? The list of fears that people experience can be endless. However, one has to firmly make their mind up that they will not live in fear.
Fear prevents one from making progress. For instance, fear of people not opening the link to read this could have prevented me from posting this article, but confidence says try and the turn out could be overwhelming.

Secret #3- A confident woman is positive.
Confidence and negativity do not go together. They are like oil and water, they simply do not mix. Being positive or negative is a CHOICE- it is a way of thinking, speaking and acting. Either one comes from a habit that has been formed in our lives through repetitious behavior.
Thinking negatively makes you miserable. Why be miserable when you can be happy.

Secret #4- A confident woman recovers from set backs.
We don’t need to see setbacks as failure. A person is not a failure because she tried some things that did not work out. She fails only when she stops trying.
Don’t ever say “I just cannot go on”. Instead say, I can do whatever I need to do through christ who strengthens me. I will never quit, because God is on my side.

Secret #5- A confident woman avoids comparisons.
Confidence is not possible as long as we compare ourselves with other people. No matter how good we look, how talented we are, or how successful we are, there is always someone that is better and sooner or later we will run into them. Confidence is found in doing the best we can with what we have to work with and not comparing ourselves with others and competing with them. Our joy shouldn’t be found in being better than others, but in being the best we can be.

Secret #6- A confident woman takes action.
There are two types of people in the world. The ones who WAIT for something to happen and the ones who MAKE something to happen.
Some people are naturally shy, while others are naturally bold, but with God on our side we can live in the supernatural, not natural.
We all have something to overcome. A naturally bold person has to overcome pride, excessive aggression and false confidence, while the naturally shy must overcome anxiety, timidity, the temptation to withdraw from challenges and low confidence.
God works through our faith, not our fear.

Secret #7- A confident woman does not live in “if only” and “what if”.
The world is filled with people who feel empty and unfulfilled because they have spent their lives bemoaning what they did not have, instead of using what they do have. Don’t live in the tyranny of “if only”. If only I had more education, more money, more opportunity or someone to help me. If only I had a better start in life, if only I had not been abused; if only I were taller. If only I were so tall…

I have shared just a tiny little fragment of the book. You shouldn’t miss out on all that is in it.
My favorite secret of all the secrets is “a confident woman is positive”. And that is because I have been able to relate with negative people who find faults while they actually have something they are hiding that’s worse off.
Anyway, you should share your favorite secrets with me via the comment arena and we will address together.

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